Children understand death differently at various developmental stages: Ages 2-5: • Use simple, concrete language: 'The body stopped working' • Avoid euphemisms like 'sleeping' or 'went away' • Expect repeated questions as they process information • Provide consistent, honest answers Ages 6-9: • Explain the permanence and universality of death • Discuss biological aspects in simple terms • Address fears about their own safety • Encourage questions and expression of feelings Ages 10+: • Provide more detailed explanations as requested • Discuss spiritual or philosophical beliefs if appropriate • Support their developing understanding of mortality • Respect their need for privacy while staying available

Children may express grief differently than adults: Emotional Responses: • Sadness, anger, confusion, or numbness • Guilt or self-blame for the death • Fear about their own safety or other losses • Regression to earlier developmental behaviors Physical Symptoms: • Changes in sleep patterns or nightmares • Loss of appetite or overeating • Headaches or stomach aches • Fatigue or hyperactivity Behavioral Changes: • Difficulty concentrating at school • Withdrawal from friends and activities • Acting out or aggressive behavior • Clinging to caregivers or independence seeking These reactions are normal and typically improve with time and support.

Including children in funeral planning can help them process grief: • Explain what will happen at the funeral service • Let them choose whether to attend or participate • Assign age-appropriate roles (reading, flower carrying) • Prepare them for what they'll see and hear • Designate a supportive adult to stay with them • Create alternatives if they choose not to attend • Allow them to contribute to memorial planning Participation should always be voluntary and supported, never forced.

Grief support for children extends beyond the funeral: • Maintain routines while allowing flexibility • Encourage expression through art, writing, or play • Share memories and stories about the deceased • Create memory books or photo albums together • Connect with school counselors and teachers • Consider professional grief counseling if needed • Be patient with the non-linear nature of grief Children may revisit their grief at different developmental stages, needing renewed support and understanding.

Consider professional support if children show: • Persistent depression or withdrawal lasting months • Significant decline in school performance • Extreme behavioral changes or aggression • Self-harm thoughts or behaviors • Inability to function in daily activities • Persistent nightmares or sleep disturbances • Regression that doesn't improve over time Child grief counselors specialize in helping children process loss through age-appropriate therapeutic techniques.